CentralFlorida-Living Blog: My World: I was dead... or just about as close to it as you can get.

I was dead.  My brainwaves were flat-lined and my heart was stopped for nearly seven hours.  During this time, a skilled surgeon restructured the delicate leaves of two of the valves in my heart.  Please excuse the dramatic way I started this post, but I've got something important to say to you and I wanted to get your attention.

For several years, my heart had been trying to tell me that it didn't approve of some aspects of how I was living my life, but I'd ignored its attempts.  It wasn't beating regularly.  I had atrial fibrillation due to erratic electrical signals in my left atrium.  This is a common problem.  About 25% of 80 year olds suffer from it.  At my then-age of 60, it was quickly becoming life-threatening. 

A-fib causes your heart to pump less blood than it should and your heart gradually expands to try and compensate.  This expansion stretches out the valves and I'd reached the point where mine weren't closing completely and my heart action was severely compromised.  All I knew was that I got tired quickly and I had a fluttering feeling in my chest much of the time.  My heart was only pumping about 25% of what it should actually pump.

In case you're wondering, there's nothing that can happen to a heart which can't be fixed with modern medicine.  I'm now better than I have been in years and my heart is pumping as well or better than it did twenty years ago.

In retrospect, I realize that I was being given a huge opportunity to learn some lessons which I'd ignored.  I'm so hard-headed that it took something major to get my attention.  I believe that the lesson is something that we all should learn, although the vast majority of people fail to learn it or ignore it.

All of us start life with a victim mentality.  Being in real estate, we see people every day who have financial problems related to housing issues and many of them refuse to take responsibility for their problems.  They find some other entity to blame.  Perhaps it's their boss; perhaps they just got laid-off; perhaps it's their ex-spouse; perhaps it's their health; or perhaps it's just that the world fails to recognize their value and they just can't find a job which pays enough.  There's an infinite number of possibilities.

The thing is, being a victim means that you're full of self-pity and consequently you can't see your way clear to taking responsibility for the situation.  Taking personal responsibility is absolutely the only way that the situation will begin to clear up. 

If you've studied the law of attraction, you probably already realize that we summon situations into our life.  Generally, these situations are ones which carry a lesson for us.  We have an option of learning the lesson or ignoring it.  When we ignore it, it comes up again and again until we finally get the point.  Then we're ready for the next lesson. 

That's what life is all about: Learning; and there is an infinite number of lessons to learn.  If you feel like a victim (we all do at one point or another), realize that you have a choice.  You can choose to either remain a victim and search for external sources to blame or you can choose to begin the healing process by taking responsibility for your predicament. 

I've met many people who have heart problems and who simply place the whole mess into their doctor's hands and refuse to take any responsibility for their situation.  By so doing, they are pretty much ensuring that the problem will re-occur or become worse.  You've got to take personal responsibility and make changes in your life in order to heal.

The same can be said with relationship problems and financial problems.  They won't get better as long as you're blaming other people.  Only when you accept responsibility and search for the lesson embedded in the situation will you begin to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

This post is running a little long, so I'm going to complete it tomorrow.  In that section, I will state a fact which will probably stretch your mental paradigm.  I will also show you how to quickly rectify almost any situation by placing yourself into a mode where you can begin to heal.  This technique can even be used to ease your relationships in real estate.  You might even find that it can make it easier to find clients and establish a good relationship. 

Hope to speak to you tomorrow.
Namaste!

BTW if you're faced with A-Fib and want some encouragement, contact me.